In the almost four years I’ve been blogging, so much has changed from year to year. At first, I just had no idea what I was doing and would blog about whatever.
Then I started copying other bloggers because I was confused as to what to do and needed some guide line to follow (because as a perfectionist, I have to do it the “right” way). Then I started to find my own voice more and blog about topics that I’m passionate about. And then I realized, I don’t actually like blogging about my personal life anymore.
It may sound odd, as a blogger, to say I don’t want my personal life on the blog. Why even have one then? Of course my personal life will always grace the blog to some extent. But I just stopped wanting it to be the main focus of my blog content for a few reasons. Here’s why.
1 // Personal life does not make good blog content.
Sorry, but it just doesn’t. A year from now, no one is going to want to read about what workout I did and what I ate for breakfast on Tuesday, January 5th. Personal blog content doesn’t usually create lasting material that will build a blog to it’s biggest potential.
I don’t like blogging about “here’s what I did today” unless it’s a day in the life post or something travel related. Those are the only times I like to share about what’s really going on. In the early days, so much of my blog was posts like that because my writing didn’t have direction. Now I create posts specifically to create lasting content that will keep readers coming back. Life posts are just fluff to me 90% of the time.
It’s not that I won’t ever do them or that I don’t like other bloggers real life posts. It’s just that I’m done trying to snapshot my entire real life on the internet. I used to take trips and feel like I had to blog about it always. Now I realize it usually looks silly a year later.
2 // My personal life has been complicated + this has been a rough season for me.
I don’t want to blog about that. I have a very hard time saying “well, I’m still having a really hard time.” And the proceed to get a bunch of sympathy comments. I don’t blog for sympathy. I love support, but after a long season of things not changing, it gets old to have to write about it and have people wishing your life was different.
3 // People don’t need to know everything.
Somewhere along the line, I realized that I don’t have to be honest with everything. This is not to say that there is any dishonest part of my blog. There are just parts left out. Talk to any blogger, and this is true. Some things just do not need to be on the internet.
I also realized that I don’t have to wear my heart on my sleeve. I used to have such a hard time blogging if I was in a bad mood or something weird was going on in my personal life. But I realize now that if I don’t write about it, no one knows but me!
A big part of this for me is that my husband doesn’t do social media at all. Just because I’m married to him doesn’t mean my blog is a package deal and he has to be on it too. My husband doesn’t want certain parts of our life, which are also his life, for the whole internet to see and I totally respect that.
Sometimes I feel stifled and want to air out my feelings, but I also realize that I control what is said here. No one is demanding I tell them everything. I get to decide what is said, and if I don’t want to say I’m having a bad day or dealing with a certain situation, I don’t have to.
4 // I enjoy my real life more when I don’t have to document it.
I can recount weekend after weekend making sure I had perfect shots of everything I ate and did just in case I blogged about it. Yes, many times I did. But many times I didn’t and then I had all these photos for nothing that just took me away from the moment I could have been more present in at the time.
Since I’ve taken a step back from how much I share, I feel so much happier to not have to document every little thing. And the people around me are happier to be around me too. I instead choose when I’m going to be mindful of documenting things instead of just being snap happy 24/7. It works a lot better for me.
Bloggers who have a specific focus like food or fashion used to puzzle me. Why don’t they tell me more about what’s going on in their life? Everyone’s blog has a purpose though.
Many blogs started out like diaries. Mine definitely did. But as I got more readers and realized truly that anyone in the world can access this information, it made me question more of what I put out there.
This doesn’t mean that I’ll never share about my personal life. I share about lots of personal topics like breastfeeding or a typical day for me as a SAHM, but I feel like my posts have a purpose and are within reason now.
I’m not oversharing all the details just because I feel like my writing has to be 100% honest. This might sound like I’m trying to paint my life a certain way, but to me, it’s the same as people censoring what they post to Facebook – you just don’t put some things on the internet.
Questions for You:
- If you blog, how personal do you get? Have you taken a step back from what you share?
- If you’re a reader, are you ever shocked by what people put on their blogs/the internet?