The bones for this post have been clinking around in my brain for quite a while – I guess that what happens when I cease to make time to turn all those random ideas into words lately.
What I want to get at today is the topic of what to reveal as a blogger. Blog’s are windows into people’s real lives, and most bloggers reveal quite a bit. But do you ever sit back and wonder if they should have said that? If you should reveal certain things about your life on your own blog? I know I do all the time.
Revealing too Much?
Although I don’t like negatives, today’s post is going to feature mostly what I choose not to reveal. I’ve realized through blogging over the course of the last year that I often felt the inclination to tell the complete truth on my blog. It’s like a mini form of journalism to me, so it has to be accurate, right?
However, if you’ve spent any given time blogging at all, you’ll quickly realize that the whole truth is not only something you should definitely not expose for the whole internet to see, but sometimes you just want to keep things to yourself.
What I Choose Not to Reveal
- Specific information such as: my town & address, what kind & what color car I have, what the outside of my residence looks like, specific addresses or locations of nearby places that I go to
- My last name (publicly)
- My husband’s identity in terms of his name and occupation (his choice)
- All of my negative emotions or situations in my life
- Certain activities I do with friends or family who may not want to be on the blog
- Where I worked, before I started doing Mary Kay
- Every opinion I have, negative or positive
This is just my personal list, which is probably not even everything, but that’s what I can think of now. Every criteria will be different for each person, depending on their preferences. Some blogs I read reveal just about everything, whereas others do not even identify themselves by name.
These specific things that I choose not to reveal are not because I want to appear different than I actually am. It’s not because I am fearful of what the world will really think of me (I don’t think I could have started a blog if I was that fearful anyway). The reasons vary, but it all comes down to what I value.
Specifically, I value positivity and encouraging that in others. This is why I don’t share every negative feeling or situation in my life. I would hate for someone to read my blog and be filled with negativity or be brought down by my complaining. This fact is true in my real life too. I’m not just trying to maintain a good imagine online.
Other things on this list are in place because I believe in personal safety for myself. Thankfully, my husband has been very supportive of my blog while at the same time helping me make the best choices for what I do and do not reveal in terms of being safe online as well.
As picky, critical readers, it’s easy to become frustrated with bloggers when they don’t reveal everything that’s going on. You read their blog for a reason: to know what’s going on in their life! But, as much as most blogger’s love their readers, it’s the author that’s running the show.
I’ve wrestled with feeling like I have to reveal all, even to the point of feeling like if I am having a bad day, I have to let my readers know. Lately, I’ve felt as if I haven’t really had much of a presence on the blog because I’ve just been too busy to recap all that’s really going on. And it makes me feel like I’m not a good blogger.
But that statement couldn’t be farther from the truth. Whether a blogger decides to be very limited with what they want to share about their personal life or very open, readers and bloggers alike should respect their choice to do so. It is a choice and the blogger gets to decide. There is no right or wrong choice about what anyone should or should not share.
Whatever your decision is as a blogger – hold strong to it. And if you are a reader, remember to respect what bloggers choose to do. Their whole world is up for display after all.
Questions for You:
- What do you choose to keep to yourself & why?
- Has there ever been a time when you as a reader were frustrated by the lack of information on a blog?