I’m sure at some point, we all wish we could go back in time and tell ourselves the truth about “how it really is” once we actually learned. I have such a long way to go and do not “know it all” by any means. I’d like to think my 27-year-old self is a lot wiser than my 20-year-old-self, though.
Here is what I would like to think of as useful advice to a younger me.
If I could go back in time, I’d tell my 20-year-old self…
1 // You’re having kids sooner than you think (because that crap is hard to plan for – surprise!) so enjoy every moment of your marriage and every vacation and every time you sleep until noon NOW. Don’t say you will enjoy anything later. There is not a later.
2 // On the same note, because you have so much time wasteful twenty year old, read more books please. I can hardly keep my eyes open to finish a book these days.
3 // Stop caring about what other people think about you.
4 // Stop caring about what other people think about you. Seriously. They’re not thinking it anyway. And if they are, screw ’em.
5 // Always do the thing you wish you could do – send a postcard, call your mom more, read more books, take up a new hobby. Don’t second guess what you should be doing. Just do it and if it’s not meant to be, it will be made clear to you soon anyway.
6 // Don’t eat too much sugar or have too much caffeine. Too much of a good thing is not actually good.
7 // You’re kinda stuck with that guy you’re about to get married to forever. Be super nice to him always.
8 // Actually think about your style. Maybe fashion isn’t the most important thing, but having a cohesive style is something I am just now figuring out at 27. I wish I had focused on style more when I as younger so I had more confidence in style as an adult now.
9 // Everyone is winging it. Don’t feel like you have to achieve anything to feel like you’ve “made it.” You will achieve those things and still feel lacking. Don’t let this natural part of life (never feeling like you’re actually a grown up) affect you too hard.
10 // You are wonderful today and you’ll be wonderful in the future. Stop worrying so much about the state of your fill-in-the-blank. God loves you and you should focus on that a lot more than anyone else’s love.
I think a lot of this advice still applies to my life today, but specifically so to my younger self. If I’ve learned anything in the last few years it’s that confidence is something you create in yourself, not something you’re born with. And that keeping fresh flowers in the house is always a good idea.
Questions for You:
- What would you tell yourself if you could go back in time?
- What’s the best advice you’ve ever gotten?