I’ve officially made it another week of SAHM life with a toddler & newborn! It would be a lot easier to just say “with two under two” but I keep forgetting that Claire is two. So crazy!
Anyway, we truly had a great week. I am finding my groove and feel like I can do this. It’s not easy, but it’s worth it when I just focus on the tasks at hand and remember that each toddler meltdown or hours of endless crying are just that and not a reflection of my parenting (I hope!).
On that note, my husband and I recently made a list of areas of our life that we wanted to check in with each other about. Since we’re in the process of making a new normal now that Stella is here, we both really wanted to nail down what it is we want for our family, personal goals, and our kids.
I realized through this topic being brought up that I really wanted to have a life make over and just go back to basics – keep life simple. The past few months – or really since we moved to Hawaii a year ago – I’ve had big ebbs of anxiety and have been trying to “do it all,” putting the wrong things as first priority.
I feel like I’ve had a lot of self-growth over the past few months and realized I just don’t care what other people think as much anymore (and I probably make up half of “what they think” anyway). I can’t be all things to all people all the time. I’d much rather be the best version of myself for a select few.
What I really want in life right now is…
To put motherhood & my role as mom as a priority. The end of pregnancy was not my best days as a mom, that’s for sure. I really need to step it up in this area with being intentional as a mom, instead of just being a mom. I only get one shot at raising these beautiful girls, so I want to be present for it and give them my best.
My goal for right now is to create an effective schedule that we can operate on daily basis that encourages learning and healthy habits for all three of us. So far, getting out for activities like a playgroup, library story time, getting home in time for naps, & then doing quiet things like reading and crafts in the afternoon are working great for Claire. I’m sure it’ll change some as Stella gets older, but I like our new routine and hope to keep it filled with fun things for her to do all summer.
To back off on my photography business. This goes hand in hand with putting motherhood first as there’s only so much room on my plate at once. I still love what I do, but it’s been more stress than enjoyable lately, so I know backing off is in order. I’m still going to take clients but limit it to two sessions per month so I don’t get overwhelmed.
I also realize that everything comes in seasons. I don’t have do everything I want in life all at the same time. I hope when the girls are a little older, I can make it a priority again, but for now, I’m fine with it being a small hobby since they’re more important right now.
Notice & appreciate the little things. I was reading in my MOPs magazine the other day and an article was saying that negative things impact us harder than positive things. To make the positives stronger, take the time to relish in them more. Not exactly a super complicated idea, but one that got me thinking. There is beautiful life in front of me every day, but how often do I decide to focus on what is not enough, not cleaned, not how I want? That’s no way to live though.
I want to fully feel the happiness that is the warm mug of coffee my husband just made me or the sweet laugh of my toddler because we playing chase together. I want to keep buying fresh flowers and swoon over the fragrance of lilies. I want to read a Bible verse that moves me and just sit and be thankful for the Word.
Less social media. I feel like I sound like a broken record on this one, but it just keeps being “a thing” in my life. I took a break before Stella was born and that was much needed. I’m officially done with Snapchat now that Instagram has the same feature and I am never using the Facebook app again and usually just check it on the computer. I don’t want to take another huge break again just yet, but am going to put limits on it because I’ve been on my phone so much lately.
I want to go social media free on weekends and then limit myself to 20 minutes per day. I keep my phone in the same spot in the house all day with all notifications off. I want to stop checking my phone so much in front of the girls, so I’ll save that for nap time. Just the past few days, I’ve been so much more productive if I just decide that my phone is going to stay in its “spot” for the day and only check it when needed.
To hone in on “my tribe.” I’ve been lucky to meet tons of people since we moved here, but I still feel like I have lots and lots of people I just “know” but aren’t really friends with. I want to give up trying to be everyone’s friend and just focus on being friends with a few people and strengthen the friendships I already do have.
I hope you have a good weekend!
Questions for You:
- Do you stop to think about what you truly want in life? What is it?
- Have you set any goals recently?