I’ve gotten a few questions from you guys, so I thought I would answer some of those today along with other questions I’m getting from people I know.
I know my blog has basically been all baby-related since Claire was born, but I’m okay with that. My whole life is baby right now, so I’m just gonna go with it. 😉
How are you feeling?
Honestly, great. The first few days after birth were rougher than I imagined. I think I assumed having an all natural birth meant I would go back to feeling normal again really soon, but that’s not the case. I recovered very well and quickly. At three weeks out, I feel recovered from the birth but very weak from lack of exercise (and sleep, I’m sure). My back/neck hurt a lot from slouching over to hold her or breastfeed. My abs also hurt a lot because I have diastis recti. Other than that, I feel good enough to walk up to two miles daily and run errands.
Did anything surprise you about the first week of motherhood?
It surprised me how much love I have for Claire. I knew I would love my baby, but it was just overwhelming. The first week was honestly such a whirlwind but the “mama bear” feeling I instantly got with her was definitely the most surprising.
Is it hard to get by on little sleep? Is she sleeping through the night yet?
The first week and a half we were home, she would only sleep on or next to me or my husband. We basically took shifts of letting her sleep on us. It was very exhausting for sure. Now she sleeps longer stretches (2-3 hours) in her bassinett. She also sleeps well in her swing and bouncer during the day long enough for me to get things done. Lack of sleep is less disruptive now than it was at first, but I think it’s just because I’m used to it.
She is most definitely not sleeping through the night yet. And I really don’t get why people ask this. I just had a baby three weeks ago. What do you think?! Most babies don’t sleep through the entire night until they are 9-12 months old 😉
How is breastfeeding going?
So far, so good. She latched great from the moment she was born. I had a few issues with soreness & engorgement but everything has been pretty good since day five.
The biggest thing that’s been hard about nursing is that it’s so frequent. The first two days we were home she cluster fed (basically feeding every hour) for two days straight. I thought I was losing my mind! Thankfully the cluster feeding doesn’t usually last longer than two days.
Right now it’s difficult because I can’t do anything else while she is nursing (like walk around, type on the computer, etc.). I can pretty much be on my phone and that’s it. It’s been an adjustment to devote so much time to nursing and nursing alone.
I like breastfeeding much more than I thought I would though. It feels totally natural and I enjoy it. I would like to breastfeed for a year if I am able.
What do you do all day?
I actually feel busier now than ever! Yes, I am a “stay at home mom” but I do not stay at home all day. I got out right away with her because I wanted to be as active as possible physically and with other people. I sat around for the last six weeks of my pregnancy, so I was not about to keep sitting around.
So far we have grocery shopped weekly, gone clothes shopping, we go to two mom groups and a kids play group for a few hours on different days. We go on daily walks in the stroller anywhere from 0.5 – 3 miles. When we are home, I do laundry, the dishes, lots of nursing, keep the house tidy, tummy time, blog, & read when I can. I’ll do a day in the life post soon to showcase my typical day at home with her.
How do you like being a mom? What’s the best thing about motherhood so far?
I love being a mom. Since I was a little girl, I knew I wanted to be a mom and that feeling never went away as I grew up. I love it so much more than I ever thought I would though.
The best thing about motherhood is knowing I created this little perfect person and that they depend on me for everything right now. Yes, it’s exhausting and something I can’t ever undo but it’s a beautiful relationship that I wouldn’t trade for the world.
Does she cry a lot?
She’s not a fussy baby at all. Most of the time she just makes grunting/cooing noises to let us know she needs something. We can almost always figure out what she needs before she breaks out into a full-blown meltdown cry. She is starting to cry more with age as I think she realizes crying gets her what she wants. Babies crying also peaks from 3-9 weeks or so, so she probably will cry more soon. But so far she has not been a crier.
How did you introduce your dog to Claire?
We were so nervous about having Beans meet Claire. We were already home and some friends who watched Beans came over with him. Both my husband and I greeted Beans separately without Claire. My husband went back in the room and I came in with Claire. Beans actually didn’t realize I was holding another person for a few minutes. It was so weird! Once he realized she was there, he did growl at her a bit in a “what the heck is that” kind of way (not an aggressive way). But it really broke my heart anyway.
After about an hour, he was just insanely curious and wanted to be as close to her as possible to sniff and lick her.
How is Beans adjusting to the baby?
Now he loves her. If he can be near her, he will. As soon as I walk in the door with the car seat, he wants to jump up and greet her first. I guess me and dad are just chop liver now!
He has been adjusting well, except he has really gotten on my nerves. When I am the only person home, it’s really hard to manage Claire and Beans at the same time. If I am nursing her or changing her diaper, he will jump up and be right in the way. Lately, he has not been listening to commands (like “off” or “no”). But I think it’s probably because I am yelling at him/really frustrated when I say the command instead of being calm like I used to be. We have some work to do, but at least he likes her.
When are you going to workout or run again?
I started walking as soon as we got home. I have done a few very light strength workouts just in the past week (arms/upper body only). I personally don’t think the advice of waiting six weeks to workout again is wise for my particular case. I really did not workout the last two months of my pregnancy due to being on bed rest. My delivery was normal without any complications. Now that I feel recovered I want to resume light activity. The longer I wait to workout, the more time my muscles have to lose muscle mass. I already feel so weak so I know I have a long road ahead of me. The exception is that I know I have diastis recti, so I will not be doing any abdominal work for a while. I’m going to work with a physical therapist to recover my abs properly.
I am honestly terrified to run again. It’s been six months since I’ve run. I haven’t really thought about when I want that to happen. I’m just going to wait until I feel ready.
What are you going to do to get back into shape?
I’m not sure yet. I thought about doing Insanity or some kind of BeachBody program because I’ve done them before and gotten great results. I definitely would not do that until 6-8 postpartum though. I’m definitely not up for that now though with being so tired & I don’t really feel like I have the time yet.
Ideally, I want to get back to strength training and running both 3-4 times a week. I’m walking right now and just going to ease into things when I feel ready.
How do you feel about your post-baby body?
Really pretty good. I am 15 pounds away from my pre-pregnancy weight, but I know that even if I lost all that weight tomorrow, my body would still need a lot of work. Things are just different now and kind of spaced out. Honestly though, when I tell people I just had a baby two or three weeks ago, everyone’s response has been “you don’t look like you just had a baby!” And that is so flattering. But trust me, I still feel like I just had a baby!
I hope you guys enjoy these posts. Have a fantastic weekend!
Questions for You:
- Have any other questions about motherhood so far?
- How are you going to celebrate your mom or the women in your life this Mother’s Day?