So now that I’m “back” to blogging, I really want to put out there why I’m here and what you can expect from me. Here is my new blogging disclaimer.
Oh, hey look pineapples! That’s really the only reason I chose this stock image. Insert laugh here.
I may have no consistent posting schedule, ever. While ideally I would like to pop in 2-3 times a week, that’s not guaranteed. I can’t keep putting pressure on myself to blog a certain amount anymore. I don’t need that. If you as a reader need that, I cannot ever promise that will be provided.
I will likely go through phases of blogging very consistently to taking big breaks when my life calls for it. That’s just what I’ve found works for me.
This blog will always first and foremost be written for me. I’m a writer at heart and that’s why I started this. Not to produce pin-worthy content, target any specific niche, or try to keep readers “coming back for more.” I have tried that and it’s exhausting.
This isn’t to say I’ll never have content that has value – I definitely will! – I just don’t write every single post with the intention of it being for you. This is my outlet and personal diary most of the time.
I personally find that I am most passionate about writing and blogging in general when I write for me. That’s when I’m actually able to produce content that my readers eat up anyway, so I’m going to stick to that.
I’m going to be honest. And with that comes some negativity. Like I said, this is what I consider my online diary. If I can’t be 100% truly honest here, then where can I be? I’ve been criticized in the past as being too negative. While I would never want to have a blog that is just a giant complain-fest, if I can’t blog through the harder seasons and trials of my life, I don’t see any point in blogging at all then.
Also keep in mind that nothing here is ever the full story, or if there’s complaining going on, there’s probably an equal amount of praising going on that may not be mentioned. Just like the disclaimer of many food bloggers “I don’t post everything I eat,” I also don’t post everything good going on in my life either. I hope to gain more balance in this area because I truly, truly don’t want this place to be a drag or somewhere longtime readers want to give up reading because I’m a negative Nancy. But I am never going to hold back on my raw honesty about how things are or aren’t going for me just to make sure I have “happy positive” content.
There’s plenty in my real life I may never blog about. If you are my friend in real life, you know this and understand. My husband does not appear on this blog by name and likes to keep his identity entirely offline. This makes trying to blog about family things or my life as a whole difficult at times. If you don’t see my husband here, he does exist. I’ve just honored his wishes to not be on the internet. If you ask a question and I don’t ever answer or it simply say I’m not going to give more information about it, don’t take offense. There are just some things about my life that aren’t going to be online and that’s that.
My comment policy is changing. If you continue to leave comments offering unsolicited advice or comments I find off-putting or annoying, I’ll probably remove them. I have put up with weird comments for a while now and I’m tired of it.
Sorry if this is too honest, but I’ve always viewed this as my palace and I’m tired of ignorant or unhelpful comments tearing it down. Comments are always, always welcome but please remember that I am sensitive and you may not know the whole backstory anyway.
The look of my blog will probably change. Just as it has recently. If you’ve been here for even a year, you’ve seen a new design on my blog. That’s just what I do. I love change and get terribly bored looking at the same layout day after day. Designing and tinkering is my thing. I know some people think of this as a huge no-no because my brand isn’t “consistent.” But where’s the fun in that?
I love changing things up because it gives me a new project, a fun place to play. I hope it’s not that annoying and maybe you like seeing a new layout now and then too.
Any and all of this may change at any time. And that’s the truth! If I proclaim I’m going to start posting 5 times a week and a month goes by and I don’t, sorry. I’m not perfect! If next year I decide I really realized blogging wasn’t working out for me and I quit again, so be it. I have come back to the truth that this is my place, I own and run this blog and I get to make all the decisions. It’s as simple as that.
I hope for this post to be a good dose of reality for some people to remember that blogs are run by actual people, and it isn’t always about other people or readers. And I hope for this to set the new tone of why I am keeping up with blogging. It’s not to please other people.
I am at the point in my life that I’ve realized that’s the most foolish thing and biggest waste of time for me these days – not because I don’t want others to be happy, but because it is actually impossible to live that way. Not everyone can be pleased, so why would I even try? I can do me and that’s it. If you don’t like it, there’s nothing I can do about that so I’m not going to stop doing something I love because it isn’t what someone else wants.
It may sound selfish, but I really do blog for me. That’s what this has to come down to for me, or else I’m going to quit again if I try to do this for anyone but me. I love that most of you love what I’m doing here. I hope that for those of you that truly do know me or have been reading for a while are proud that I decided to come back on these terms. I’ve always struggled with perfectionism and the need to please others. This is just one small measure in reclaiming what is mine, going back to the whole premise of what I started this blog for (to overcome perfectionism), and remembering that I don’t have to be perfect.
Questions for You:
- If you’re a blogger, what would an updated blogging disclaimer look like for you?
- If you’re not a blogger, does this help you out as a reader to know what to expect?