Some of you shared that you’d be interested to hear my birth plan so I’m going to share the details of that today. I’ve titled this post “birth wishes” because I know that no one can plan how birth will go. I didn’t write a birth plan because I want to control the situation or because I fully expect it to go the way I plan. I wrote one to help foster better communication between the hospital staff and what we want out of birth as a family.
My hospital also requires us to submit one. They told me that even if your plan is “leave the hospital with a baby” and you don’t care about anything else, they want to know that. I think it’s so smart that they require one, since every woman and family views birth differently and has different needs.
Hypnobabies Birth Wishes
I would like…
- to wear my own gown/clothing
- to drink clear fluids & eat light snacks during labor, if desired
- use the bathtub during labor if it is available (unfortunately, they only have one tub)
- use mother-directed pushing
- to deliver in any position that is comfortable at the time
- to breastfeed soon after birth
I would like to avoid…
- an IV or saline lock, unless medication becomes required
- being asked to rate my pain. We try to focus on pressure instead of pain.
- being asked if I want pain medications. If I decide I want them, I will let the staff know.
- an episiotomy. I would rather tear naturally unless the baby is threatened.
- internal fetal monitoring, unless medically necessary
Also, not noted in my wishes but already standard procedure by my hospital is:
- everyone gets a private room – none of them are shared
- fetal monitoring is intermittent (15 min. of every hour) unless there are issues
- baby is placed directly on you after delivery & newborn procedures & cleaning is done right there
- you are not expected to stay in bed & walking/movement throughout labor is highly encouraged
- They generally try to avoid epistiotomy, but because I want to avoid that so greatly & see no benefit to it, I felt the need to reiterate it in my wishes (but I’m glad it’s not their standard practice)
With that being said, these are our hopes if birth starts naturally and continues without complications. If I find I need to be induced or a cesarean is being recommended, I fully expect that many parts of this plan would change or not be appropriate anymore. I feel the hospital I am going to is pretty up to speed on what new moms want and don’t seem to push many out of date practices.
My plan to get through labor naturally is to rely on my Hypnobabies techniques, which includes listening to the hypnosis CDs during labor & staying in a state of hypnosis to deal with pain, pressure, and mental stability. The hospital has birthing balls to bounce on. I have a list of different positions to help baby decend. I’m going to bring some positive affirmations and Bible verses to read. I also really hope to labor in the tub, but there is only one tub for the whole L&D unit I’m going to, so there is a chance it may be unavailable. In that case, there are showers in every room though.
But even with all this said, I have no idea how labor will go for me. It’s just not something anyone can predict. I have every intent of going through this as naturally as I can, but I have already told myself that if every intervention there was happened to me, as long as I leave healthy and with a healthy baby, it’s going to be okay. I am trying to be really go-with-the-flow about it all. But for now, I can only hope for the best!
Questions for You:
- Do you plan to have birth wishes communicated when the time comes?
- Do you have any questions for me about how I made these decisions?