Oh, what a blog post title. Grab your coffee. This is long.
Have I mentioned lately that I just have all the feelings about blogging, social media, and online life in general? I wrote recently about how I’m not quitting blogging (I promise!) and also how there’s more to life than “followers.” For weeks now, I’ve been trying to put into words how I feel about all of this as a whole – so here it goes.
Since when do we really have “online lives” now, anyway? Isn’t it the weirdest concept? I remember back to the days that my computer was solely for writing a poorly formatted MLA citations page or playing The Sims 2. There was no human connection involved with being “online” for quite a long time, at least not as we know it today.
Now I have 17 social apps on my phone, five of which I feel I “can’t live without.” I have to say that so much of what I read on social media is awful and the worst of humanity. I’m so confused when I see terrible comments on anything anywhere because I wonder if this is now the norm. Is judging people okay just because we think we see such a big part of their lives now?
I won’t even go into what I see on so many Facebook posts (that has to be the worst), but I unfortunately read some stuff on a hate blogging forum that I refuse to mention the name of here because I don’t want them getting any more traffic. I normally do not get caught up in that kind of stuff at all but when one goes down the rabbit hole, I guess I stayed there long enough to read around.
I read some awful crap about people whose blogs I have read for years. No, I don’t “know” them, but most of the stuff that I read was just so far from the truth or as I have seen them. People can skew anything to their way of thinking and make themselves sound like they’re on top in almost anything. It was so awful reading what people thought about these bloggers who I know are just trying their best.
Yes, there are plenty of attention hungry people on the internet these days that we don’t like (another thing that social media has ruined for us – our humility). But most blogger or YouTuber or Instagrammer are not purposely trying to look rich, be annoying, seem like a sell-out, seem as if they don’t eat anything, make poor financial decisions, aren’t good parents, and on and on. But we as a society go and view these people through a microscope and nit pick every little thing about them until we think we just know what’s going on with them.
She definitely does eat enough. I can’t believe she doesn’t see her disordered eating.
Sure must be nice to have all that money to buy XYZ.
I can’t believe she complains about money issues when she just went out to dinner last night!
This girl must be SO in love with herself.
All she blogs about is this. Her whole life must be about that thing.
We’ve all made these judgments in some way or another. We see little tiny pieces that, thanks to social media, are often very staged and made to look perfect or like something they really aren’t. We take these pieces and project them to be so so much bigger than they really are, as if one piece of information that may not even be interpreted right is the full story.
Just Trying Your Best
For bloggers, this is such a big deal. And being both a blogger and a person who has made judgment calls based on social media, I can see both sides of this.
As I hope to grow my blog more, I have to say that I personally am just trying my best. I think what it comes down to for so many people who get this judgement is that they’re trying their best. And maybe they haven’t figured out the best way to execute something or write or take pictures. Maybe their best needs some tweaking. We are all a work in progress, no matter how seasoned a blogger is.
I’m not a “big blogger.” I have fared pretty well in the blog world considering how cruel I know it to be sometimes. So this post isn’t coming from some recent judgement I’ve received (although watch me eat those words – ha!). Something that comes to mind though is me trying my best with fashion.
Look, I am new at fashion. I am not aspiring to be some LiketoKnowIt-I-wear-Prada fashion blogger. Ain’t ever gonna happen over here, mkay? It is something I want to pay more attention to in life and any time I decide to blog about a new life goal, I feel more motivated in real life to pursue it when I create blog content along side it. So that’s kind of it for me. I want to experiment and have NO idea how. But I feel like someone could easily come along and say “wow, this girl is suddenly blogging about fashion, is she trying to be some big shot fashion blogger now?” Or maybe even “wow, this girl thinks she blog about fashion? Her fashion sense is HORRID.” I really have no idea. I make this stuff up.
Another comment I’ve heard often from the peanut gallery about blogs is sponsored content. Oh the dreaded S word of blogging. Heaven forbid a blogger wants to make a buck for their time. I find it so weird that many readers are appalled by this, as if everything should be free. Or annoyed that bloggers get free stuff. As a blogger – THIS IS AWESOME. Yes, finally, all my writing here is having some kind of value attached to it.
Some bloggers definitely post too much sponsored content for my liking, but to each their own. I find that it’s very hard to go to a blog and say “omg only sponsored content goodbye!” because sometimes you just get dealt the crap card when it comes to sponsored stuff. Almost every time I’ve gotten into more sponsored content, it ALL comes flying my way at the same time. It just always seemed like the due dates for a few sponsored posts I had were all in the same months span, so… that’s the way the cookie crumbles. It’s definitely not that I meant to have four sponsored posts in the same two week span. It’s that I was trying my best at doing this blogging thing and that’s what happened.
There’s always two sides to the story.
Wanting to Be Better
On that note, when I am trying my best, sometimes I get so dang discouraged. Two things in my life that have been beyond depressing to me at times are blogging and my photography/design business.
Both of these ventures are hanging out in a completely over-saturated market. Everyone has a blog. Everyone is a photographer. And everyone’s mom offers blog design services now.
I often start doing some work on my blog or something for Bee Sweet and then BAM. It hits me so hard. Seeing someone else’s work that I feel I’ll never learn how to create like that. Seeing another photographer get the job. Not hearing back from a client. Whatever. There are serious let downs, especially when your competition is hanging out side by side with each other.
But at the same time, before I started working on whatever it was I was doing, I started because I wanted to be better. My design. My photos. Whatever it is I’m working on. I’m working on it because I want it to be better. Not because I’m not good enough.
I think so often we get caught up on the wrong side of things. And we forget that the things we’re seeing that are So Much Better once started off just a little shy girl saying “I want to be better.” And so she was.
Questions for You:
- Was this post dreadfully too long? I haven’t written like this (what I consider actual writing) in a long time. Not sure if it works for here.
- Do you feel like most people are generally just trying their best or not?