Hey, bloggy friends! This one’s for you!
I’ve been getting quite a few questions lately on how exactly to connect with other bloggers. In this post, I hope to share some of my own personal experience about connecting with others & a few do & don’t’s & tips as well.
Hi, there. Can we be friends?
So you’ve started a blog & you’re part of this big giant blog world. Where to begin? How do you find blog friends? How do you let other bloggers know you want to work with them? What do you say on what media?
I don’t have all the answers, but here is a simple answer to most of your questions: Be real.
Bloggers are real people, too. Although it may seem like the blog world is full of really talented, crazy-productive, amazing people (which it is), we are just regular people, living our lives & blogging along the way.
How you would connect with someone in real life is how you would connect with someone online as well. Just be yourself. That’s honestly the best advice I can give you. Stop being afraid and just say hi!
Where To Connect
There are many different mediums where you can connect with other bloggers. If there was a water cooler in the office of the blog world, I would definitely say it’s Twitter. If you’re not on Twitter & you want to connect with others, you’re missing out.
Other places to connect with bloggers are:
- On their blog! Leave comments & follow them.
- Facebook Fan Page
- Direct Messages (Twitter/FB)
- Join a challenge or movement
I find Twitter to be the easiest place to connect with people. People typically respond quickly on Twitter because it’s such a fast-paced medium. It’s also really easy to see replies on Twitter.
Facebook Fan Pages are another great place to leave a more lengthy or personal comment such as: “I really loved your post about _______. I think that’s such a great idea & I can’t wait to read more of your blog! Have a great day!”
I have yet to invest time into using Google+, but you can definitely connect there if you want. Hopefully someday I have more to say about that…
Instagram has also been a really easy way I’ve connected with people lately. Lots of bloggers use Instagram daily & typically share different bits & pieces of their life on there than they would on their blog or other social media.
Most bloggers openly share their email as well. I think most bloggers love getting mailed questions or opportunities to work with others. It’s definitely the most personal way to connect with someone though, so unless your message needs to be personal, I would only use email for lengthy comments, personal questions, or collaborative opportunities. We all get a lot of email too, so it may not be the best venue in terms of getting a timely response.
Challenges are a fun way to be a part of something that a lot of people are doing at once. Some challenges are big, some are small. But they all unite people to reach the same or similar goals. Challenges are held on blogs all the time – just keep your eyes peeled!
The Do’s & Don’t’s of Connecting
- leave valuable/meaningful comments
- follow people you want to be connected to
- be enthusiastic
- question whether you should comment. Give the comment love!
- assume you know everything about a blogger based on her blog
- be apologetic or act like you’re a nuisance. Be confident in your interactions!
- connect only for your own personal gains
A big don’t that I want to mention is this: Don’t connect with another blogger only to ask them to follow you back.
Personally, I don’t believe that blogging is just a “following” game. People read blogs for information & enjoyment, not because you told them to.
I find it rude when someone I’ve never even encountered before says “Hi! Love your blog. Now please come follow mine!” I understand that it’s tempting to ask others to follow you since that’s ultimately what many bloggers want. But I believe asking right off the bat is a poor way to get people to do so. It shows that you’re only saying hi for your own personal gains instead of making a real connection.
A better way to do this is simply by leaving comments consistently or replying via whatever social media on a regular basis. You know the saying “the squeaky wheel gets the grease?” Well, the blogger who interacts with others get the followers.
I realize that some of you may have a different opinion on this, and that’s okay. This is just something that I’ve been seeing a lot of lately. I know this tactic doesn’t work, and I feel it’s worth mentioning.
The Community Mindset
Connecting with other bloggers is all about getting out there. There is no perfect recipe for how to do this, and each blogger’s experience will look different.
For me, blogging is about becoming a part of a real community. If your goals are to get page views, make money, and get-big-quick – that attitude is going to show. I’m not saying those are bad goals; I’m just saying that people can feel that and may be turned off by that attitude.
When you change your mindset to be community-minded, people will feel that too. Comments of value – where you take the time to actually read posts – are different from comments given just to “give a comment” and leave your name out there. Conversation over Twitter or email has a much better lasting impression than a tweet telling someone to check out your blog.
It’s easy to let being a part of the community become a chore though, with to-do list kind of tasks. But when you change your goals from personal-oriented to community-minded by getting to know others & being a “blog friend” to them, you get loyal readers & connections that will help you & your blog grow.
I hope these tips & thoughts help. I’m certainly really thankful for all the connections I have made through blogging and the blog friends I have now. And I’m so thankful for each one of you who takes the time to connect with me 🙂 Happy connecting!
Questions for You:
- What would you add to this list?
- What’s the biggest turn off to you when connecting with others?