I was experiencing some down time on the blog last night through this morning, but everything seems to be working now 🙂
I’m sure I had some kind of plan for today’s post. I’m a plan person. I plan posts in advance through an editorial calendar and get all crafty/OCD/type-A. But today is one of those days where I’m okay with abandoning that plan and just writing what I feel in my soul.
That’s right. Today you get a SOUL post. Consider yourself lucky. I should probably listen to these inklings in my soul more often…
A Vision of Perfection?
But back to real talk. Let’s talk blogging. And within that, let’s talk perfection. Because I’m good at talking about both of those, so why not throw them together?
What I’m getting at is… bloggers are not perfect. I think this idea (which is not new) has been circling the blogosphere for a while lately. And for good reason, too.
As a blog reader, it’s really easy to have a totally different perspective of things. Before I became a blogger and I was merely a reader, I often had thoughts like…
Wow, why does this person post so many pictures of themselves? Are they really that important or conceited?
All this person cares about is _______ because it’s all over their blog.
Blog’s make everyone’s lives seem so perfect, effortless, and easier than mine.
And I’ve often heard people irritatedly say something along the lines of “Blogs are just glorified versions of people’s lives.”
But now, as a blogger, I am fully immersed in a world that shows me both perspectives. And I realize how wrong all the conclusions above really are.
Bit & Pieces
Ultimately, while blogs are a representation of someone’s life – it’s not actually their whole life. Most people post about the good things in their life – a nice date night, a good workout, a delicious meal. And occasionally about the bad things – a crappy day, a hard project, their frustrations.
But in all reality, blogs can’t even begin to encompass all that is one human being. If they did, bloggers would have to write about a lot of crap that no one wants to read and take a ridiculous amount of pictures. I don’t have time for that. You don’t have time for that.
So what do readers get? The bits and pieces in between that are worthy of or interesting enough to post about.
My blog, personally, is about me, but it’s also about what keeps people interested. No one wants to read a boring blog, right? I like to post workouts, recipes, my manicures, and inspiration about my faith because you guys as readers have responded to it. But that’s not all that I am or all that I’m interested in. It’s just a teeny snapshot of something I like, something I did, or something I tried that I wanted to share with the blog world.
On this same note, the flawed thinking that blogger’s have “perfect lives” (just because the readers can’t actually see their whole life) is why so many blogger’s have to post the dreaded “I DO NOT post everything I eat!” disclaimer. It’s honestly so sad to me that bloggers have to do this. I have this on my sidebar disclaimer as well, even though no one has said anything negative/weird about my eating habits… yet. But that’s exactly why I already have it posted. Because it’s likely that someone will say that someday. That someone is going to come on here and judge what I eat and get the wrong idea about it.
It’s bound to happen. And reader’s are entitled to their opinions. But – just because those opinions are formed doesn’t mean they’re accurate.
I’m writing all of this to say… Don’t hate me (or any other blogger) because I am a blogger. As a blogger, it’s actually a lot harder than people think to constantly share your life day after day in a meaningful, interesting, upbeat, and creative way.
Why do blogger’s post…
Workouts? Because people eat that crap up like it’s going out of style. And because I LOVE to workout. Working out is what makes me happy, so I share it.
What they eat? Because everyone eats. Because they’re trying to be an inspiration in that they eat healthy. Or share that everything they eat is not healthy. And because food is delicious, duh.
What they wear? You’ve pinned something fashion-y on Pinterest before right? We all love fashion. Enough said.
Cool stuff they get? Possibly because they’re getting paid to (and that’s awesome for them!) and partly because it’s FUN to share goodies.
Things they do? Because they’re people who DO stuff. In real life. And it was probably interesting.
Their opinions? Because they actually HAVE opinions. Bloggers are not actually blog-posting robots with no feelings or no soul.
In all honesty, I am just so tired of seeing reader comments (on other blogs, not my own) that are SO skewed to one side. I’ve seen readers demand certain types of posts from bloggers, saying, “Why don’t you post about this anymore?” or “All you post about is this. It’s getting old!” As if the reader’s are running the show. And I see so much judgement too.
But I can honestly say that I believe bloggers are trying the best that they can to deliver the bits & pieces with grace, creativity, and a smile on their face. Most blogs are purely hobby. This isn’t a job for most bloggers, despite how much some bloggers treat it like a job. The choice to post every day or multiple times a day is a CHOICE. To read it is a privilege and a gift.
I just wanted to put it out there that despite all the information about my life on display for all to see, I am human just like you. I make mistakes. I am complicated. I am deeper than my blog can attempt explain. And I am not perfect!
Of Possible Interest:
- I’m Not Perfect via Heather @ A Colorado Gal
- There is No Perfect Body via Emily @ Perfection Isn’t Happy
Questions for You:
- As a blog reader, what types of topics/posts do you tend to view negatively?
- As a blogger, have you experienced the frustrations of people thinking you portray the “perfect life?”