Happy Friday, friends! How has your week been?
Something on my mind yesterday was how much I am enjoying blogging right now. I’ve been blogging a lot more and been more active within the blog community than I’ve been in the past few months.
Last year in an attempt to find more balance in real life and more joy online, I took a step back and gave myself a new set of “rules” to blog by. I gave up on trying to post daily, commenting on 30+ blogs a day, and keeping up with my email.
At times, the perfectionist in me was unhappy. I felt like I wasn’t doing enough and I often felt like other blogs were so much better than mine, that mine looked like a failure in the dust. I didn’t respond to emails in a timely manner. I missed out on opportunities that could have brought me money. I let some blogging relationships die.
My Happy Place
But here I am, happier than ever with this space I call my own. I no longer feel drained and strained. I feel inspired to write posts and making time for my blog has become a habit and joy instead of a chore. Why?
1. Taking a break and “letting go” of the rules recharged me to keep going.
I was getting burned out, digging myself into a hole, and stressing myself out way more than I should over my own hobby. By giving myself some room to breathe and reassessing my goals , I was able to give myself the mental energy I needed to be here today and write this post right now.
2. I’m more inspired and organized here than anywhere else in my life.
This may sound weird, but a big reason I love my blog lately is because it’s orderly and easy to control. That’s not to say my real life is out of control by any means, but my blog is just much more organized. I love coming to a place that is clean, neat, and orderly. I keep it that way so it’s a joy to create work here.
I also find that other areas of my life right now are not as inspiring. My job is coming to a close, working out isn’t really a big priority for me with being pregnant and not running, but my blog keeps me energized and entertained.
3. I focus on what is, not what is not.
It’s hard to focus on the positive when comparison is so easy.
Her blog has more comments. Her food photos are so much better than mine. How can she make time to post every single day?
These are thoughts that I’m sure have run through most blogger’s heads at some point. I’ve chosen to let those thoughts go, though, and focus on what I do have going for me.
I have my own loyal following that is strong and growing. My photography skills have gotten better. I post when I can and I’m okay with that. My blog tips posts are always a hit and what I’m “known” for. My blog layout rocks and I made it myself.
It feels so much better to come to my blog and focus on what it is instead of all the things I wish it were or that it may fall short in.
4. My Blog gives back
The time and effort I put into my blog produces fruit for me. From all the time I spend writing these posts I get…
- a great sense of accomplishment for what I do & feelings of purpose
- a connection with real people who are part of my blog community (that’s you!)
- an outlet to be and discover myself
- a place to create & explore new things from workouts to recipes to running a marathon
If my blog didn’t give back to me, I honestly wouldn’t invest much time here. It’s kind of like a relationship: it’s a two-way street. There have been times when my blog didn’t provide what I wanted, and in those times, I stepped away.
Stepping away doesn’t always mean things are wrong or failing, though. Sometimes stepping away just means you need time to recharge so when you do come back, you and your blog can have a better relationship (see point #1!).
Blogging is something I’m really grateful for in this season of life. I have a good groove going now and love it. I’m expecting a lot to change once Baby Bee arrives, but because I’ve chosen to be okay with whatever amount of effort I can give for my blog, I know it’ll be okay. It comes in seasons, just like everything in life.
Questions for You:
- Why is your blog your happy place? Why is it not?
- How do you manage what you want for your blog with real life?